Fifteen months ago, my husband lost his job.  The new District Manager they had hired and my husband did not see eye to eye.  From day one when they met, she berated him, yelled at him (day 1) and was impossible to please.  She had the reputation of where she had come from to be ruthless.  Needless to say, she eventually got her way and handed hubby his papers.

I’ll never forget those 3 months when he was looking for another job.  He took it a lot harder than I thought.  It wasn’t just a job lost for him, it was a somewhat loss of identity as well.  A loss of some of his masculinity.  He admitted that he felt as though he let the family down.  That he failed us in some way.  I believe that in the majority of cases, job loss affects men harder than it does women.  No matter how many times I told him that everything will be o.k, that I was still very proud of him, that I believed in him, he still was very hard on himself.  Those few months really affected his belief in himself.

He found a job 3 months later in September 2008.  He had received 2 job offers at the same time.  Funny, how that happens.  One offer was for an assistant manager, the other was for a General manager and more money.  He chose option 2.  Within the last year, the District Manager of the company he had turned down, approached him 3 times.  Always in a casual, want to see how you are doing manner.  Finally about one month ago, he approached hubby with an offer.  Store Manager at his biggest location and more money than he was making at his current job.

Hubby was very hesitant because he was happy and comfortable at his current job.  He got along with everyone and felt like it was a stable (as stable as any job can be nowadays) job. When asked for my advice, I told him that I felt this new company would be a great challenge.  Although he would have the same title, store manger, he would be managing a larger location with more employees which would increase his market value.  It was a greater opportunity career wise and not to mention more money.

z194466073 Change is good.....I think

He feared making the change, not sure if the “grass is greener on the other side”.  “What if I don’t get along with my new boss?  What if I don’t succeed?”  This was his fear creeping up from losing his previous job.  I told him I’d support him with whatever decision he made but to make sure it wasn’t decided based on fear.  I wanted him to decide based on what he felt would be better for him and our family.  In the end, he gave his two weeks notice and accepted the new offer.

He starts today.

I’m hoping his success in this new job will give him back his confidence 100% or more.  I’m hoping that he never doubts his abilities again.




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